My Name is Shirley Dolitz and this is a true story of my life. I still have cancer and have not been able to get it into remission yet. I am currently undergoing chemo again and I believe I have the greatest doctor there is: Myron Czuczman @ Roswell Park Cancer Institute.
There has not been a day since CJ's death that I have not thought of him or Dylan. If I could, I would give my life to bring them back but I can't and have to somehow believe things happen for a reason and here's why:
If CJ had not died, I would not have helped so many people:
I met this young mother who's liitle girl Sunshine was murdered not long before CJ and when I met her it was the first time I felt like I was not alone, so in 1990, when I read about a little boy and his baby sitter who were murdered in a nearby town, I knew I had to contact the young mother She reminded me of how it was when CJ died and how it felt to actually speak to someone else who's child had been murdered. Her infant son (who's name was also Curtis) was found murdered along with his babysitter. They were found in the woods. It was later discovered that the babysitter's ex-boyfriend lurred them into the woods and stabbed them to death. I wrote her a letter. In the letter I told her that she would have many friends and family that would tell her how they felt for her and knew what she was going through... (bla bla bla) They'd tell her things like "Oh he's in a much better place" etc...I told her they would say these things because they thought they were helping but they don't realize how much things like that really hurt. I told her that even though I did not know what SHE was going through, I can understand because and then I told her what happened to me. I gave her all my numbers and told her she could contact me anytime day or night even if it was to scream, yell, cry, vent what ever!... She called me the next day and said she didn't want to live anymore...I met with her right away and we got through it, she helped me too... I never knew another person to loose their child like that. I also had another life saver, her name is Carol Mulhern. She worked for the Monroe County DA's office and she was there for me day/night whenever even just to give me a hug...she saw how Sunshine's mom and I connected and decieded to start a support group... that's how we learned about lobbying for bills and laws etc.
Anyway...People often tell me they are sad for me with everything I've gone through and am going through, but I actually feel lucky... I may not have alot of money, but I feel so rich that I was blessed with being given the honor of being the mother of 2 very special and beautiful little boys...I am also rich with family and friends... I have the best family in the world and you can't buy true friends and I believe I have both. I have met so many wonderful people in this life journey and hope to keep on meeting more. But, no matter what happens, I will keep on fighting now with my little guardian angel kitty by my side.
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